Domestic and Dating Violence

Counseling & Wellness Center
Old Westbury: Student Activities Center, 3rd Floor
Manhattan: 26 West 61st St Room 510

Campus Life
Old Westbury: Student Activities Center 2nd Floor
Manhattan: 26 West 61st St 1st Floor

College of Osteopathic Medicine
Old Westbury: NYITCOM Serota Room 213
Central Islip: VIP Independence Hall Room 106

What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, or psychological harm inflicted by a current or former intimate partner or spouse.

What is dating Violence?

Dating violence is characterized as controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It can happen in straight or gay relationships. It can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination

Domestic and Dating Violence Facts:

Cycle of Abuse Diagram
  • One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
  • An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
  • 85% of domestic violence victims are women.
  • Historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew.
  • Females who are 20–24 years of age are at the greatest risk of nonfatal intimate partner violence.
  • Most cases of domestic violence and dating violence are never reported to the police.

The CDC's National Center for Injury Prevention and Control defines four main types of dating and domestic partner violence:

Physical violence is the intentional use of physical force (e.g., shoving, choking, shaking, slapping, punching, burning, or use of a weapon, restraints, or one's size and strength against another person) with the potential for causing death, disability, injury, or physical harm.

Sexual violence can be divided into three categories: (1) the use of physical force to compel a person to engage in a sexual act unwillingly, whether or not the act is completed; (2) an attempted or completed sexual act involving a person who, because of illness, disability, or the influence of alcohol or other drugs, or because of intimidation or pressure, is unable to understand the nature or condition of the act, decline participation, or communicate unwillingness to engage in the act; and (3) abusive sexual contact.

Threats of physical or sexual violence communicate the intent to cause death, disability, injury, or physical harm through the use of words, gestures, or weapons.

Psychological/emotional violence traumatizes the victim by acts, threats of acts, or coercive tactics (e.g., humiliating the victim, controlling what the victim can and cannot do, withholding information, isolating the victim from friends and family, denying access to money or other basic resources). In most cases, emotional violence has been preceded by acts or threats of physical or sexual violence.

Common warning signs of abuse:

  • Checking cell phones, emails, or social networks without permission
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Constant belittling or put-downs
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolation from family and friends
  • Making false accusations
  • Erratic mood swings
  • Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way
  • Possessiveness
  • Telling someone what to do
  • Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex

What should I do if I feel I am being abused to stay safe?

  • If you are in immediate danger contact 911
  • Contact the police.
  • Consider getting a court order that tells the abuser to stay away from you
  • If you are on campus, contact campus security
  • Take threats seriously and act in a manner to protect your safety
  • Contact a crisis hotline, domestic violence or rape crisis program
  • Develop a safety plan which includes things like changing your routine and avoid traveling alone.
  • Tell important people in your life about the abuse including the police, your employer, family, friends, and neighbors.
  • Carry a cellphone at all times so you can call for help.
  • Develop a safety plan.

How am I going to feel?

  • Emotional shock and disbelief that this is happening
  • Embarrassment
  • Fear of what the abuser will do
  • Vulnerable and feeling unsafe
  • Fearful of trusting people to help you
  • Depressed, overwhelmed, angry
  • Stressed
  • Confused, frustrated, isolated

Counseling Services/On Campus

Old Westbury Office:
Student Activities Center, 3rd Floor
516.686.7976 (Main Number)

Alice Heron Burke, CCBT, LMHC
Senior Director
Student Activities Center, Room 307

Joan O'Connor, CSAC, LMHC
Counselor III
Student Activities Center, Room 305

Manhattan Campus:
26 West 61st Street, Mezzanine Level
212.261.1770 (Main Number)

Michael Schneider, LMSW
26 West 61st Street, Rm M02

Lauren L. Rigney, NCC, CCMHC, DCC, LMHC
Associate Director
26 West 61st Street, Rm M04

Counseling Services/Off Campus


  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1 800.799 SAFE
  • NYS Coalition Against Domestic Violence: 1800 942.6906
  • NYS Domestic Violence Hotline: 1 800 621.HOPE


  • Safe Horizon Rape Crisis Hotline (212) 227-3000
  • NYC Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project (212) 714-1141
  • Victims Of Violent Assault Assistance Program (212) 562-3755
  • Brooklyn Community Program (718) 928-6950
  • DOVE (Domestic and Other Violence Emergencies) New York Presbyterian Hospital (212) 305-3569
  • SAVI (Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Program) Mt. Sinai Hospital, Manhattan (212) 423-2140 or Queens (718) 736-1288

Old Westbury:

  • Nassau County Rape Hotline (516) 222-2293
  • Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth, Inc (631) 665-2300
  • NASSAU County Safe Center of LI: (516) 542-0404
  • Suffolk Coalition Against Domestic Violence: (631) 666-8833

Title IX Support

When should I contact Title IX support staff?
Any student, staff, or faculty member, or applicant for admission who has concerns about sex discrimination or sexual misconduct, including stalking, is encouraged to seek the assistance of the Title IX Coordinator (faculty and staff) or the Deputy Title IX Coordinator (students and applicants).

If I contact Title IX support staff, will my confidentiality be maintained?
NYIT will maintain the confidentiality of the complaint to the greatest extent possible, consistent with the law and NYIT's goal of conducting a thorough and complete investigation. Efforts will be made to safeguard the privacy and rights of all persons involved.

If you feel like you have been a victim of domestic or dating violence, please contact a Title IX administrator.

Title IX Coordinator

Cheryl Monticciolo
Director, Compliance & Title IX Coordinator
President's Office
Tower House, Room 106
Old Westbury, NY 11568

Deputy Title IX Coordinators

Old Westbury:
Gabrielle St. Léger, Ed.D.
Dean for Campus Life, Old Westbury
Student Activities Center, Room 208

Gail Wasmus
Assistant to the Athletic Director
Sports Complex, Room 104

Mary Ann Achtziger
Associate Dean NYIT College of Osteopathic Medicine
Serota Hall, Room 213

Dr. Ann Marie Klotz
Dean for Campus Life
26 W. 61st St.

Central Islip:
Paul Cavanagh
Assistant Dean, VIP
Independence Hall, Room 106

Section 504, Rehabilitation Act

"No otherwise qualified individual with a disability in the United States … shall, solely by reason of his or her disability, be excluded from the participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance …" 29 U.S.C. § 794(a).

The Rehabilitation Act prohibits discrimination on the basis of disability in programs receiving federal financial assistance and in the employment of practices of federal contractors. Each federal agency has its own set of § 504 regulations, but all include reasonable accommodation for employees with disabilities, program accessibility, effective communication for individuals who have hearing or vision disabilities, and accessible new construction. Individuals with concerns or questions about the ADA or Section 504 may contact NYIT’s ADA and Section 504 coordinator as follows:

Old Westbury & Manhattan

Ashley Alesi
Assistant Director, Disability Services Counseling & Wellness
Old Westbury: Student Activities Center, Room 304, 516.686.4934


Cheryl Newman, M.S.
Medicine Learning Specialist
Old Westbury: NYITCOM Serota Building, Room 208, 516.686.1446

Legal Services


  • Campus Security 646.273.7789
  • Victim Services 24 hour Hotline (212) 577-7777
  • New York City District Attorney's Special Victim's Bureau (212) 335-9373
  • Brooklyn (Sex Crimes Bureau) (718) 250-3170
  • Bronx (718) 590-2115
  • Queens (718) 286-6505
  • Staten Island (718) 556-7125

Old Westbury:

  • Campus Security 516.686.7789
  • Nassau County Special Victim's Squad (516) 573-8055
  • Nassau County District Attorney's Sex Crimes Unit (516) 571-1266

Additional Help:

  • New York State Crime Victim's Board 1 (800) 247-8035
  • National Center for Victims of Crime 1-800-FYI-CALL

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